I was talking to a sweet sister in Christ, who is also my sister-in-law, yesterday about the beautiful faces on Reece's Rainbow. She said she'll look at the pictures until her heart is aching then she has to get off. I confessed that I have had thoughts of being a bit irradiated that I now know about them. Now that we know about these children and their bleak future we are responsible for our actions with that knowledge.
I can't unring the bell. I've seen their faces. I know the future they face. Why do they face an institution? Because God made a mistake when knitting them together? May it never be! No, he made them the very way he always intended to make them.
I see several main reasons why people don't adopt. There are a dozen more I'm sure.
- They are in love with their own gene pool. As parents, they are more interested in what they will make together than what God could bring into their family.
- They don't understand the theology of adoption. We are adopted into the family of Christ, joint heirs with the Messiah. (Ephesians 1:5)
- They're scared. The media has made adoption appear like birth moms return every day to get their child. That actually happens very rarely. Adoption is by far the scariest thing I've ever done. But, having my first child was pretty scary too.
- The timing isn't right. Maybe it is or maybe it isn't. Maybe you are waiting until everything is perfect, you have every last penny, you are done having children biologically, etc. Truth is, it's never the right time. And sometimes waiting means you simply wait too long.
- Money. I'm not going to lie. The money is like a mountain that's peak is hidden in the clouds. You can't see the top. I spent a lot of time scared of the money. I knew I could get the paperwork ready. But, I couldn't just "come up" with the money. I was scared. God provided, and provided, and provided.
Here are some adoption blogs that are doing what they can to get the word out.
Sorry, you can't unring the bell. You've seen their faces. Now you're responsible for that knowledge, too.